“They say nothing lasts forever; dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.”
-Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Carrie Bradshaw took the words right out of our mouths. KPR & I have been truly blessed to be gifted the best friends in the world. Yes, I know what you’re thinking…Who doesn’t say that about their closest friends!? But we honestly think we were all meant to go to Springfield College to meet one another and be life long besties #fate. Our friendships are never going out of style and hopefully neither will our wardrobes. Much like the ladies of Sex and the City, when we open the mail to find a wedding invitation enclosed, fashion is our #1 concern. Our very dear college friend Sarah Izzo was getting hitched! Naturally, the first thing I did was got on the phone with my go-to fashion friend & business partner ” KPR” to plan our attire. Below are some tips that help KPR & I decide what to wear for our friends big day.
Wedding Guest Tips & Fashion Rules to Follow:
- Bridal Color Sceme: As a guest, you never want to make the day about you. Yes, we all want to look our best but its important to never upstage the bride, groom or bridal party. You can almost bank on the bride wearing white, so stay away from any neutral tones that could clash with the leading lady. You also don’t want to look like the “wanna-be” bridesmaid, so make sure to find out what color the bridal party will be in and stay away from those colors. For Sarah’s wedding we knew she would be in white & her ladies in Burgundy so we wanted to make sure to stay away from those tones and decided on mint and blue for our style.
- Dress for the Season: One thing you always want to keep in mind is the weather and time of the year. We’ve found it helpful to look up the venue before hand (This information is usually detailed on the invitation) looking it up is a good way to know what your dealing with from an indoor or outdoor venue to the possibility of rain, cold, or heat. This is a helpful way to prep any accessories for those seasonal changes you may be dealing with: Sunglasses, shall, scarf, tights, handkerchief for your guy (or for ATS’s happy tears #crier), etc..
- “By God there’ll be dancing.” – My Best Friends Wedding. The most important question to ask yourself when prepping your look is, Can I dance in this? Our friends are usually the first on the dance floor and the last to leave, so we know what it means to wear “dance appropriate clothing”. A dress that is too tight might hold you back from breaking down those groovy moves, but an added flowy skirt can add to the allure as you whirl around that dance floor. This is also important to consider when deciding on your shoes, if you can’t dance in your shoes then kick them off and hit that dance floor!
- Dress for your body type: When selecting a dress for your upcoming event, ensure it fits you properly. Yes, you may have seen something on a friend that looks amazing, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it will fit you the same way. We all have different shapes, sizes and heights. We happen to be perfect examples, we both wear similar sizes (usually 0, 2 or 4) however, with ATS at 5’9 and KPR at only 5’1 we prove that not everything is going to look the same on each of us. You want to look your best, and we have always felt that when you look good you feel good, so accentuate your best features! If you have great legs, go with a shorter style, if you have a thin waist, then go for the cutouts. But if you are not sure what would look good on you and need style help or advice, we would be happy to guide you in the right direction, just shoot us an email!
- Try Renting vs. Buying: All of the looks we sported for the wedding are rentals from Rent the Runway. Why spend hundreds of dollars every-time you have a wedding to attend, for the dress to sit in your closet..FOREVER. Lets face it. We live in a time where you aren’t going to post a photo on Instagram or Facebook of yourself in the same dress.
KPR DRESS // ATS DRESS
- How to accessories your look: Layers are key when it comes to a summer wedding, so definitely pack a pashmina or carry a lightweight jacket you can slip on after sunset. Consider a hat, in Europe, wearing a hat to a fancy wedding is de rigueur. So adding a hat to your outfit will not only shield your face, but it will add some punch to your ensemble. ATS played her look up with a detailed bag and fringe shoes, while KPR decided on statement earrings and a glitter clutch to bring her look together (See accessory links below).
- It’s all in the Shoes: We have Cinderella to thank for making the connection between shoes and romance but even if you are not the bride, your shoes are super important! You should all know by now that KPR is a shoe addict, and when it comes to shoes for a wedding her advice is simple, wear something you can walk in, because if you can’t walk in them, you can’t dance in them – and a wedding without dancing is like …well what’s the point! If you are going to a summer wedding make sure you are keeping it cool while still holding that fancy feet fashion. DON’T wear a sandal, its far too casual even if the wedding is on the beach. An open toe strappy high heel sandal on the other hand, is the best choice. Choose nude or black (depending on your dress) to make it easy to match with just about everything. And like tip #1 the bride is most likely wearing white shoes, so don’t copy her! If the wedding takes place on a sandy beach or a grassy lawn, your heels are sure to sink into the ground so you can consider wedges or chic flats instead, but if you are fun sized like KPR and heels are your best friend, then consider these little lifesavers, Heel Caps! KPR decided on a black strappy high heel sandal (as recommended!) and these shoes is her new go-to! They are beyond comfortable, even danceable!
KPR Shoes: Similar Style in Suede Here , For Less Here , Nude Color Here
ATS Shoes: $22 at Target (such a steal!, not sold online) Similar Shoes, Here & Here
- Hairstyle’s by ATS: I typically end up doing my friends hair for wedding events (thank you girls for trusting me). Sometimes I just do it for fun, but I’ve also styled fellow bridesmaids hair for weddings. I’ve always enjoyed playing with textures, new products & hair extensions (post all about extensions coming soon). Trying the latest hair styles on my friends is always so fun and I feel that over the years I’ve really zoned into what types of styles look best with what type of dresses. Ex) If there is a detailed back, it always looks best to get your hair out of your face and away from the detailed back to really show it off. For Sarah’s wedding, KPR wore hers down with a little beachy wave, while I decided to pull just a few pieces away from my face and clip them back. Sometimes a little goes a long way!
- Makeup by KPR: I like to consider the time of day when it comes to event makeup, especially weddings. If you are in the wedding as a bridesmaid, then go a little bigger because this will look better on camera, consider your brides photos! If it’s an evening wedding that you are attending, then you can always go a bit bolder, like a smokey eye and a red lip. These are great for a black tie evening weddings, and go ahead throw on the fake lashes too, again bigger and bolder is good here! If you are attending a summer daytime wedding, then go more natural and light. Choose colors for your lips and eyes like nudes and light pinks, a more natural look is good here! When it came to our dear friend Sarah’s wedding, both ATS and I choose more natural looks, since the ceremony began in the early afternoon, and the cocktail hour was outdoors. I went with a neutral lip and more bronzed base to give me that summertime glow, while ATS went with light pink lips and a bit of glitter on her eyes.
KPR: Earrings For Rent Earrings & Similar Bracelet
- Bag essentials!: When it comes to wedding bag essentials, If the ceremony is outside, we recommend applying SPF, or stash a tiny bottle in your bag, you wouldn’t want to wind up with a nasty burn while waiting for the ceremony to begin. Horses sweat, Men perspire, Ladies glow! To combat sweat, don’t cover your face with a think layer of powder. Instead, use blotting papers. These powdery pieces of paper will absorb oils without coating the skin. We always find it helpful to also bring along items that may come in handy for yourself or your fellow wedding guests like: bobby pins, makeup essentials for touch ups, your favorite lip gloss and even back up eye lash glue…trust us, we used all of those items at Sarah’s wedding!! You never know when a friend will be in need so be prepared!
ATS Bag: Zac Posen, Floral Clutch & KPR Bag: Rebecca Minkoff, Sparkle Clutch
ATS and I love a good wedding: dancing, dresses, and most importantly, a reason to see our fabulous friends! There are friends, there are best friends, then there are our friends. We consider our little group from college, family. We love each other like brothers and sisters, which might mean sometimes they get on our nerves, but it also mean we always have someone, or a couple of someone’s, who we can count on. I can attest for these amazing people on being there for ya. During the wild ride of wedding planning Robert and I took last year, these were the people who were there by our sides the entire time. And when it comes to one of our very own getting married, we want to look FAB!! Lets face it, we are going to be in those pictures on the mantel next to grandma and grandpa for years to come! This is when ATS and I jump in to help set the fashion standards for our girls (and guys!) Hair, make up, outfits, shoes… We make sure to look good by using these ten tips for a summer wedding and are sure they will work for you too!
The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them, and others you don’t. But, in the end they’re the people you always come home to. Sometimes it’s the family you’re born into and sometimes it’s the ones you make for yourself.”
– Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City
Photos By: Corinne DeJoseph and us!
Thanks for reading friends!